This really illuminates a problem in myself; I'd seen it but never defined it so well, never faced it so head-on. The little telling details he picks are wrong for me. But the point, the gist, is right. I DO know kung-fu (10 years Shandon Shaolin). I was thinking, and to some extent acting, as if my REAL life would begin when that mattered.
UPDATE: So this can better stand alone, me not wanting sex with her was never any kind of problem. That problem went the other way.