Sometimes I look at what I want in a woman, and think it seems awfully ambitious. Then I think that it's basically exactly what I'm offering, except for a few details. That feels a little narcissistic. Also I feel a bit arrogant about thinking what I offer constitutes ambitious goals.
It's not that ambitious. I know women who fulfill all your wishes (or they will in twenty years, at any rate). Most of your list is things like "not on drugs", not "must be twentysomething blonde supermodel with PhD, Thai cooking experience and yen for cats."
ReplyDeleteOf course you want someone who's like you. That's not arrogant, just simple fact: people tend to like people who are like them.
You know women who are into D/S and frequent sex and are Christians and willing to wait? That's the combination that seems pretty unusual to me. Either part alone is easy of course.
ReplyDeleteSi. Well, one. Nice girl. Her boyfriend's in the military.
ReplyDeleteWell, cool! I know one too, Determined Girl, who is already married to an awesome guy. Maybe they're more common than hen's teeth after all. Thanks for the hopeful note!
ReplyDeleteIf I can find a cougarbait-age crossdresser who doesn't care if I even shave my legs, you can find a kinky chaste Christian.
ReplyDelete(A lot of crossdressers fetishize femininity so much that they only want to date girly-girls. The idea of finding a feminine man who likes my shaved head and biker boots is just as crazy as your combo of things.)
Thanks, Perversecowgirl! That's interesting, that crossdressers fetishize femininity so much. I always kind of liked tomboys.
ReplyDeleteLeg and armpit shaving are an "eh" to me. I guess it's nice, but it's not a big deal. Trimmed pubic hair is nice, for the sake of getting less in my mouth, but I certainly don't say no to a woman who keeps it long.
My theory is that crossdressers fall into two categories: the fetishists (who think all things girlie are hot hot hot to the point of adopting those things themselves) and the genderqueer boys (who feel like they're part-girl inside and want to express it, or at least think gender roles are stupid and like to mess with them).
ReplyDeleteI much prefer the latter.
Odd that I fetishize, or pedestalize, women so much but actually prefer tomboys. Thinking about it, I suppose being ineffective was never part of my ideal of femininity.
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