I've had a music video I wanted to post for a couple of days, and right now it's particularly apropos. I wanted to post it because I think it's about the sexiest thing I've ever seen. But if there's one thing it does not convey compared to other videos, at least in my opinion, that is "low availability".
Compare with, say, Pink's "U + Ur Hand". The combination of the unavailable song message plus the obvious sexy intent of the video production should match the high attractiveness - low availability formula perfectly. But after watching each I would rather have coffee with Katherine Ellis than be the only man on an otherwise deserted island full of Pink clones. Nothing wrong with singing about wanting to be left alone, but singing about wanting to be left alone while suggestively stroking props with a come-hither look sucks.
What do you come up with if you try to imagine someone who finds the Pink video with the unavailable song message sexy? I come up with nothing good.
There's an interesting contradiction here between what I find attractive, and furthermore likable, and what I offer publicly. Because I think that a man's primary politeness trait is concealing desire and availability. I go way out of my way to either hide desire or strongly indicate unavailability because I assume that my desire is most likely offensive and creepy on its own; and that that offense may be neutralized by indicating my unavailability. Someone wanting to have sex with me makes me like them more even as a friend, as long as I don't get the impression that they are pining and I am torturing them by hanging out with them. Revealing I wanted to have sex with someone else is something I expect to have the opposite effect.
In other news, between Harlem One Stop, And I Try, Insatiable, When You Touch Me, and others, I'm totally in love with Katherine Ellis.