Now, that said, I have pretty nonpicky tastes as far as women's looks go. And when I saw this article about the first engagement from The Ugly Bug Ball, a dating site for self-identified ugly people, I didn't think the bride looked too bad. So I checked it out.
I was thinking that after I'm back on the dating market, that I might sign up despite the fact I'm not ugly. (Not to everyone's taste, but not ugly). As I've mentioned before, being a peculiar sort myself, I would hate to miss out on my peculiar match because she or others don't think much of her looks. Plus, I figured in that environment, my looks would be a guaranteed plus rather than sometimes a "meh", which strokes my vanity.
On a quick look around I think that's what more than half the people who sign up are thinking. Also the front page copy is written to entice anyone to date ugly people (not just other ugly people):
# Half of UK daters aren’t pretty so instead of fishing in a small pool of prettiness and getting nowhere dive into an ocean of uglies and have more choice.I wonder, in a year will the population at The Ugly Bug Ball look much different than the general population? I'm not convinced it looks all that different now.
# Ugly people are a better calibre of human - pretty people generally aren’t very nice and tend to be a bit shallow
# Ugly people have had a tougher life and therefore tend to be more considerate and more loyal. A recent TUBB survey also proved that they try harder in bed.
# Ugly people are a better calibre of human - pretty people generally aren’t very nice and tend to be a bit shallow
ReplyDeleteYeah...that's a myth that ugly people made up. I've known plenty of attractive people who were sweet, smart, funny, and interesting and plenty of ugly people who are abusive, pathological assholes (and plenty of vice-versa, of course).
# Ugly people have had a tougher life and therefore tend to be more considerate and more loyal.
Yeah, obviously...because nobody who feels discriminated against ever develops a victim complex and spends their lives getting back at people for perceived slights, or anything.
A recent TUBB survey also proved that they try harder in bed.
I can personally verify that at least three ugly people out there don't (that's how many it took for me to finally learn my lesson and let go of that myth).
Plus, I figured in that environment, my looks would be a guaranteed plus rather than sometimes a "meh"
That's a slightly creepy sentiment (I've been there, and I understand it, but it's creepy nonetheless). It's also almost guaranteed to backfire. I say this with love.
That's a slightly creepy sentiment (I've been there, and I understand it, but it's creepy nonetheless).
ReplyDeleteyeah, I know. :-/
That's a good dissection of the TUBB advertising points; (well the three that I didn't dislike already; there are two more on the site).
ReplyDeleteTo expand on my emoticon-based answer, I also feel like there is something creepy or even somehow predatory (which is a trait I hate) about the sentiment. But I can't pin it down. Everybody likes to be admired, right? And I'm not saying I'd date someone whose looks I didn't admire; I just tend to admire MOST women. So why not someone who thinks my looks are outstanding, if I think she's hot too? I'd especially appreciate any help you (or anyone else) can give me figuring this out.