A couple of days ago we got together for lunch. I had found a pair of her socks, and told her to remind me to give them to her back at my house. I said I was hoping Saturnine Thespian (the new guy) was doing well. I mentioned how much I'm hoping for a letter from the judge, she told me she thought when it came it would be effectively backdated to when the 90-day wait was over. She told me about her upcoming trip to Greece, and her New Year's plans. After lunch I asked her for a last kiss goodbye, which she kindly granted, while I teared up badly.
I didn't think the divorce was backdated, so I looked it up later. I sent her two e-mails.
For what it's worth, I found my copy of the "Waiver Of Notice Of Intention To Request Entry Of A Divorce Decree Under 3301(c) Of The Divorce Code" that we both had to sign, which says in part:and
"3. I understand I will not be divorced until a divorce decree is entered by the Court and that a copy of the decree will be sent to me immediately after it is filed with the prothonotary."
That's why I'm still wearing my ring when I'm not working with metal. It's part of why I was surprised when I heard you were already dating. I hope I'm not being rude to say this but if you want forgiveness for that, you have it already, without asking. I hope you find someone who will make you happier than I did.
I still have a pair of your socks.I got a cheerful reply to the socks one and nothing to the first one. Maybe this isn't the best example, what was she really supposed to say to the first one? But it's emblematic. She'd talk about trivialities and most immediate practicalities but I couldn't get her to talk about anything consequential to the relationship. (Appropriate music.) She's said I should already understand; which baloney I bought for a long time and felt guilty about.
Do me a favor? Next time you hear someone talk about men's lack of communication skills, kick them in the ass for me. Metaphorically! (I guess.)