I commented on the last post, but it got eaten... :( I just want to say that it's normal to grieve, that you should recognize that both of you probably played roles in the dissolution of your marriage, and that you are in my thoughts.
@ozmandias, thanks! It's seeming like my role in the dissolution included missing hints and being too vanilla along with things I've mentioned before like withdrawal, and her role included exploring kink with another guy online while never mentioning those kinks to her husband, and then going off to be with that guy.
@ozmandias, actually, I'm not quite sure what you're trying to tell me by telling me "that both of you probably played roles". I do recognize that, but, whose role do you think I'm probably missing?
I guess I was saying that you seem to be beating yourself up over the dissolution of your marriage, but both she and you were involved in this whole marriage-breaking-up business, and it is not solely your fault. :)
*hugs*
ReplyDeleteI commented on the last post, but it got eaten... :( I just want to say that it's normal to grieve, that you should recognize that both of you probably played roles in the dissolution of your marriage, and that you are in my thoughts.
I'm glad to hear that, but your phrasing reminded me of this old Nightcourt running gag: http://youtu.be/M8KdtJOCzOU
ReplyDelete@ozmandias, thanks! It's seeming like my role in the dissolution included missing hints and being too vanilla along with things I've mentioned before like withdrawal, and her role included exploring kink with another guy online while never mentioning those kinks to her husband, and then going off to be with that guy.
ReplyDelete@Odysseus, hah! Please imagine me with an enormous grin, slowly saying "I'm feeling much better now!"
ReplyDelete@ozmandias, actually, I'm not quite sure what you're trying to tell me by telling me "that both of you probably played roles". I do recognize that, but, whose role do you think I'm probably missing?
ReplyDeleteI guess I was saying that you seem to be beating yourself up over the dissolution of your marriage, but both she and you were involved in this whole marriage-breaking-up business, and it is not solely your fault. :)
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