tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post6552393447659753756..comments2018-06-03T02:13:49.956-04:00Comments on Abstinent Sexblog: My ex is into consensual non-consentUncommonMurrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08999723370789881734noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-5303444221240826172011-09-07T06:28:31.178-04:002011-09-07T06:28:31.178-04:00PerverseCowgirl, I think it was probably a combina...PerverseCowgirl, I think it was probably a combination of all three.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-77830437633092206572011-09-07T00:32:46.089-04:002011-09-07T00:32:46.089-04:00The comedian was Louis CK, and I love that bit.
Y...The comedian was Louis CK, and I <i>love</i> that bit.<br /><br />Your ex might not have held back out of embarrassment, you know. Lots of people feel that if they have to tell their partner to do something, it doesn't "count"...for example, a man might wish his wife would spontaneously bring him flowers, and feel that if he <i>told</i> her "please bring me flowers sometimes" then the flowers would be less pleasing; they wouldn't be an act of love, just someone following directions (I have discovered that this isn't true, though; if Minx does something because I told him to, it's totally an act of love! He's doing something because he knows it makes me happy!).<br /><br />All things considered, forced sex is <i>extremely</i> likely to fall into the "he has to do it on his own or it doesn't count" category.<br /><br />Alternately, she might not think of forceful sex as an act a guy chooses to commit, but rather the inevitable result of a woman being so darned irresistible. So maybe in her mind, she wasn't framing it as "I wish he would fuck me really hard" - she was thinking "I wish he <i>wanted me more</i>." And since you can't reasonably request that someone <i>feel</i> a certain way about you, she kept silent when you asked her what she wanted.<br /><br />At any rate, it sucks that she never told you.perversecowgirlhttp://www.perversecowgirl.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com