tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post5930412187413237701..comments2018-06-03T02:13:49.956-04:00Comments on Abstinent Sexblog: WhoreUncommonMurrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08999723370789881734noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-3366625580684921382010-12-03T06:17:29.391-05:002010-12-03T06:17:29.391-05:00That example explains some things I wondered about...That example explains some things I wondered about from your blog; sometimes he seemed oversensitive.<br /><br />"And mind is a lot more complicated than the different named disorders." That always seemed to me to be a weakness of psychology; the mind of the patient or person under study is just as complex as the mind of the doctor or researcher, and can't be encompassed.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-12060863518539836162010-12-03T01:42:59.298-05:002010-12-03T01:42:59.298-05:00I'm happy I can give you that at least - a cer...I'm happy I can give you that at least - a certainty there are some people out here (women even!) who agree with you.<br /><br />I see it as abusive, though, when she was using you for emotional support by false pretense. Even if it was somewhat unconscious. She gave you a role you couldn't fill as her husband and then when you couldn't fill it, she made it known - and you became the bad guy. There are also narcissistic personality disorders and people with those are seen as toxic and held accountable for their actions. Why would she be wholly excused?<br /><br />I got in to therapy, well mostly for my own sake, but also because Wonderboy is not supposed to be my therapist. There's stuff I need to figure out and stuff he just doesn't need to carry for me. As an example - my turning on him after we'd had sex and blaming him for not caring etc. Those are feelings I must wade through, find out why I can't accept I made the decisions with him and that he doesn't have some sinister alterior motive. The therapy has really improved, well, everything for us. <br /><br />I don't necessarily see myself as borderline anymore, but that might be because I'm better now - or I don't want to carry a label like that. None of the healthcare specialist I've seen have ascribed me as one, that's my own diagnosis. And mind is a lot more complicated than the different named disorders.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-47344854248849968552010-12-02T16:46:10.222-05:002010-12-02T16:46:10.222-05:00Rogue Bambi, I'm glad you agree. It's alw...Rogue Bambi, I'm glad you agree. It's always reassuring to me to hear when someone agrees, because my fear is of marrying someone who doesn't agree again.<br /><br />According to the psychologists I've talked to, borderline can definitely be as bad as that or even worse in some cases. Obviously not in yours. I've never thought of her as abusive though; there was no intent to abuse, only confusion about the circumstances.<br /><br />One thing about borderline is that, often, people with it are extraordinarily wild and good in bed, which is a positive effect that it seems you got and my ex didn't.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-62367039910134137402010-12-02T15:55:55.492-05:002010-12-02T15:55:55.492-05:00I totally agree with you on that - a good relation...I totally agree with you on that - a good relationship and a good sexual relationship demand repeating of the simplest acts. I read somewhere that the body can accommodate any situation: famine, abstinence etc. After a while it treats the status quo as normal. So, either don't have sex or do, but that's what you're schooling your mind, body and soul for. <br /><br />I'm really sorry to read about your ex-wife's mental problems. There are so many ways to be abusive. I'm in a shock that you mentioned borderline though, because that's what fits closest to my state too. Can it really be as bad as that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com