tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post5816980924483605809..comments2018-06-03T02:13:49.956-04:00Comments on Abstinent Sexblog: Age differencesUncommonMurrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08999723370789881734noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-23390869033176120192011-01-26T01:17:27.181-05:002011-01-26T01:17:27.181-05:00I've seen several older man - younger woman re...I've seen several older man - younger woman relationships that have worked really well. Older woman - younger man are more rare. Personally I would be fairly OK with older boyfriends, as long as we are still in the same mind space. However, I would avoid much younger men who make advances (- 20 years +) - apparently they may gain some status from having sex with an older woman and this seems sleazy to me. <br /><br />I agree that age should not matter if the couple have genuine feelings...Candicenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-57695462585364082052011-01-25T11:50:53.744-05:002011-01-25T11:50:53.744-05:00As you may have guessed, Perversecowgirl, you are ...As you may have guessed, Perversecowgirl, you are one of my inspirations for no longer thinking age differences are a big deal.<br /><br />I'm not sure I buy the eager-to-please; if anything I think I'm more eager-to-please than I was at 20, and I was always more so than most. And I sure see no objection in the world to looking for a partner who is eager-to-please, I'd expect that to be a pretty universally desired trait.<br /><br />Easily manipulated I guess is the problem area; and I never want to look like I'm taking advantage even if I'm not.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-54993928350312750842011-01-25T10:38:51.868-05:002011-01-25T10:38:51.868-05:00There's no inherent problem with an age differ...There's no inherent problem with an age difference; the problems come from people fetishizing or abusing that difference. I'm sure a lot of people specifically seek out the young because they're eager-to-please and easily manipulated; this of course is bad. But genuinely liking someone who's older or younger? Where's the harm?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-31333295689968010372011-01-25T07:35:22.828-05:002011-01-25T07:35:22.828-05:00That's a good point, Heroditus. Determined Gi...That's a good point, Heroditus. Determined Girl says she was pretty emotionally immature when the two of them first married; I'd say no she wasn't, but she wasn't nearly as emotionally mature as he. He is very emotionally mature but very young in some of his social behaviors; he makes funny noises and does little dances that prompted my name of One-Man-Carnival Guy, which amuse the heck out of her.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-47950274153552613422011-01-25T01:14:16.787-05:002011-01-25T01:14:16.787-05:00It isn't the age so much as it is the maturity...It isn't the age so much as it is the maturity levels that make the difference. A pair of very good friends of mine have a nineteen year age gap--but he's much younger than his years, and she's much older than hers, so they meet in the middle. <br /><br />My husband and I are only two years apart, but about equal in maturity (and I'm 9-10 years younger than you; I'll be 32 in another month and a half). If I didn't have my other half, and were to look for another match in maturity, I'd have to look for someone your age or older.<br /><br />Age is a number; maturity is what matters.Heroditus Huxleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049569750742829144noreply@blogger.com