tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post8737882470040925491..comments2018-06-03T02:13:49.956-04:00Comments on Abstinent Sexblog: My PedestalUncommonMurrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08999723370789881734noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-70505260088875355102010-10-29T11:09:17.785-04:002010-10-29T11:09:17.785-04:00As a dominant woman, I am completely grossed out b...As a dominant woman, I am completely grossed out by subs who approach me with an "I'm a lowly worm and all women are goddesses" mentality. I only want to play with guys who know it's <i>play</i> - and who start out strong and self-possessed so that when I do bend them to my will, I know it's a true tribute to me and me alone.<br /><br />I'm not sure the cleanliness thing would be detrimental in and of itself. I mean I think that regarding an entire gender as "better" in any regard is bad and probably dangerous, but can't think of specific examples of how.<br /><br />Oh - it's dangerous if you're promiscuous (so thank heaven you're not). I have a guy friend who's attracted to men sometimes, but convinced that sex with one will inevitably infect him with AIDS. Meanwhile he has a circle of female friends with whom he has unprotected sex, knowing full well that they're all having sex with other people as well. I kind of want to slap him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-25750800101965821132010-10-29T09:16:52.923-04:002010-10-29T09:16:52.923-04:00perversecowgirl, yes, that's the kind of thing...perversecowgirl, yes, that's the kind of thing that makes me worried about having a pedestal.<br /><br />In my case, I don't think women are inherently morally or intellectually superior. So as far as I could tell, there's never been an intimacy problem because my pedestal causes me to fail to relate intellectually or emotionally; I feel like I can interact on an equal level in virtually any part of the relationship. It's just the physical cleanness thing. As far as I've been able to notice, that hasn't caused any issues except that it makes me a little hesitant when I'm domming.<br /><br />As a dominant woman, you've probably seen it quite a bit from the other side; like you said, lots of people feel the men are dirtier thing. Do you only see the problems with intimacy resulting from a man who feels unworthy to interact on an equal level, or is there some subtle way that the cleanness thing specifically messes things up?<br /><br />In the case of pee, I'm pretty sure that's an individual and diet thing. My wife's pee was always much darker and stronger-smelling than mine because I drink a large amount of water and she drinks a moderate amount of Diet Coke instead. (But it was still "cleaner" in my head 'cause it's girl pee.)AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-19138864588642212772010-10-29T08:36:39.831-04:002010-10-29T08:36:39.831-04:00Deleted my comment because I didn't like how I...Deleted my comment because I didn't like how I put it. It's my blog, I can make retractions if I want to! :) Of course if anyone subscribes by email this won't help.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-91707649543057227642010-10-28T21:55:22.481-04:002010-10-28T21:55:22.481-04:00After I left my husband, I got a book for helping ...After I left my husband, I got a book for helping me through the emotional fallout. It had a really cool exercise in it that a marriage counselor used to do with couples: he'd make them physically adopt a pose that represented the dynamic of their relationship.<br /><br />So in your case, you would stand (or sit?) on the floor while your wife, say, stood on a chair. In this position you can't easily kiss or hug or be physically close in any rewarding way; therefore, we can postulate that putting one person on a pedestal means you won't be able to experience true intimacy with them; you can't get close because they're above you. Plus your neck would eventually get cramped from looking up at them: resentment ahoy!<br /><br />I think a lot of people have that "men are dirtier than women" thing in their heads, btw. I kind of do...well, mostly with the pee thing. But boy pee really <i>does</i> smell way stronger. Either that or Minx drinks a whole lot of ammonia when I'm not looking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com