tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post7914903685539744225..comments2018-06-03T02:13:49.956-04:00Comments on Abstinent Sexblog: Flexible and inflexible kinkUncommonMurrehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08999723370789881734noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-28500559067854993072011-02-28T21:42:21.123-05:002011-02-28T21:42:21.123-05:00Dude that's not verbal humiliation. That'...Dude that's not verbal humiliation. That's play which is just fun. That's teasing dirty talk. Big difference. With your future wife you'll never call her a nasty skank and insist that you double wrap it before insertion. That would be verbal humiliation.Clinthttp://marriedfreaks.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-40502603217262592122011-02-24T21:26:59.770-05:002011-02-24T21:26:59.770-05:00Actually the verbal humiliation I'm into isn&#...Actually the verbal humiliation I'm into isn't really humiliation the way I take it. I love, for example, being called "dirty boy" in a warm, approving tone. Because I fear that my kinkiness is repellent, and that expresses that it's actually a plus for the woman speaking.<br /><br />It's difficult to figuring out what the underlying need is, and it's different for each person, but I think it's worthwhile. Figuring out mine is what a lot of the early part of this blog was about.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7616558788482418353.post-60915192625509154132011-02-24T20:46:56.285-05:002011-02-24T20:46:56.285-05:00I think everyone has their own style of kink. The...I think everyone has their own style of kink. The Dom/sub thing is interesting to me, and I could see integrating that into a game some night. But I don't really understand having kink as your whole lifestyle. Not that I think there is any inherent problem with the way any consenting adults want to live, I just can't wrap my brain around it personally. I can play dominant or submissive for a short time, but in real life, we are partners. <br />Of course, with any kind of kink, consent must be extremely clear. I mean, I like for Clint to tie me up on occasion and be very rough. I'm a strong proponent of safe words because it frees you both up to play in the moment without worry. <br />I definitely don't get the verbal humiliation. It's just not something I could be comfortable with. I'm Clint biggest fan, and he's mine. But that's part of being in tune with each other and wanting to build each other up rather than tear each other down. <br />And orgasm denial!! just no.<br />Kink is a very trust based thing. And not being into a certain kind of kink does not necessarily denote a lack of trust. It's a lot about trusting your partner to know your boundaries and push them appropriately. We live in a fallen world, and thus, we all come with baggage. Far too many carry deep scars from damage and abuse. As far as I'm concerned, each sexual encounter should leave each party satisfied in some way beyond just the orgasm. And really, it shouldn't even be dependent on orgasm. Because we all know it doesn't always happen. But you know it's great sex when it doesn't matter. You are satisfied anyway. <br />Interesting about filling a need. I think you are right, but we get into a far more involved discussion to figure out exactly what that need might be.Pennyhttp://marriedfreaks.comnoreply@blogger.com